Happiness is an emotional state. Scientifically it is the brains reaction to stimuli in the environment which cause certain chemicals to be released, certain neurons to fire and consequently feelings to be felt. Spiritually it is one of the emotions also associated to Love which is one of the binding emotions of nature. Focusing ones thoughts on things which make a person happy easily allows them to live a happy life by taking the focus off the things that make a person sad or upset. Happiness can also lead you to better things, by avoiding things that make you sad or stress you find yourself in situations that are more healthy for you as well as more pleasurable. There are many people that will put themselves through very difficult and stressful circumstances to have happiness and they are driven by that end result. (take into consideration that somethings which are hard for you and I may be considered easy to other people)
Most people will answer the first question with a "Yes" for many it is a no brainer and still here you are asking the question. So lets start from the stand point of: "People don't deserve happiness" the point of this argument is to help you understand that happiness sometimes comes in packages that aren't so happy.
- If I have a friend who cheats with her friends boy friend because she is happy with him and he is happy with her does that friend deserve to be happy?
- If you have a friend that compromises other peoples relationships do they deserve happiness?
- If your family doesn't approve of your way of life, do you deserve to be happy?
- If you know someone who is going around to people he doesn't like and telling them how he feels about them, do they deserve to be happy?
Being on the receiving end of any of those questions your answer may vary. How would you really feel if you friend and you boyfriend were going at it behind your back? Would you wish her happiness?
There are unfortunate grey areas. Everyone deserves happiness but happiness comes in many different varieties. We must also take into consideration the psychology of the matter. A person who goes around starting trouble are doing it because they are thinking they are enjoying themselves but this feeling of enjoyment is not so much happiness but rather a mask for a more inner problem that is being dealt with and therefore is being portrayed in the wrong manor. Not only does this have to do with inner turmoil but also with a lack of understanding. If you want to avoid losing potential friends in your life or avoiding losing the ones that you already have then try to understand them.
A persons attitude towards life says a lot about them, and it wont necessarily match your own but thats okay. If you are drawn to that person perhaps there is something there that you are meant to take with you as you continue on this journey through life. A lesson or enlightening thought. But you have to understand or get to know them, ask them questions, course it always when you're sincerely interested.
I meet people all the time that are sometimes on completely different journeys then me. They have what I would consider a very unfortunate way or looking at life. Everything is pointless and there nothing to look forward to. I've tried my best to turn them around but despite my best efforts we have learned to accept one another's views and opinions; meaning that I have argued my part and made my point and they have made theirs. At no point was I trying to overrun them with my ideas and beliefs I was simply putting my thoughts out on the table for them to look at and examine while they did the same. In the end if I had chosen to take one of those ideas (which happens on ) and make it my own I would have but it wasn't to be but rather than come out of it empty handed I still took what I learned and what I saw and put it into the general perspective on life. So that the next person that I meet that has that same outlook on life I can converse with and understand why they look at it that way or not speak to them at all but still understand why it is they aren't acting like everyone else in the room.
This is where your next question come in. "Can I or anyone else put a price on happiness?"
Society, as it is, likes to and is forced to but labels on things. Morality is not based on what is fair and what is good or bad- if good and bad are distinguished on how any one particular individual is feeling it would but it can't work like that. So we are left standing with these set of moral rules.
"When you break up with somebody you have to wait at least 2 weeks before dating someone else"
Ask why and you will get a barrage of answers
"Never ever ever under any circumstance date one of your friends exs"
That ones a bit more obvious but the reason constantly changes and yet so have the people and the circumstances around the situation. Happiness is universal everyone knows what it is to be happy and there is no price that is to high to experience it and as soon as you believe that there is is when you will get stuck. When you believe that the happiness you deserve is out of reach it always will be and you will either be to scared or to lazy to ever really achieve it.
People sit days on end thinking about what they would do with their life if they did this, or if they could do that. They are depressed and miserable and lost and they don't know why. Some may even have everything they've ever wanted and yet they still aren't happy.
Well Happiness is not a place you get to or the amount of things you get it is a feeling, as is success and Love and you can't start feeling like that whenever you decide to accept your fears get over them and move on! Be the creator of your own life, I've been told you only have one- So tell me are you just going to sit there a stay inside or are you going to get out and enjoy it?
Be Inspired
-M
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